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Beyond R U OK

There's more to say after R U OK?

About the Beyond R U OK

As we continue to face challenges, disruption and uncertainty this can take a toll on our wellbeing at work and at home. The impacts of COVID-19 have affected each of us in our University community in different ways.

Beyond R U OK? reminds us to check in with each other and have honest conversations about how we are coping or perhaps, most importantly, how we are not coping.

So that it becomes second nature, we urge everyone in the University community to check in with ourselves, our teammates, fellow students, family and friends.

The acronym ALEC (explained in this video) reminds us to:

  • Ask
  • Listen
  • Encourage action
  • Check in again

On this webpage you will find support available for students and staff. Check out the R U OK webpage for more information.

R U OK Day 2021 Webinar

Professor Kimberley Norris has some further tips on how to have these conversations:

  • Speak in short, clear sentences
  • Use empathy
  • You are feeling x because of y
  • Validate rather than agree (be careful of “you’re right’ phrases)
  • Be comfortable with silence
  • Schedule enough time in an appropriate location –it could go longer than a “quick chat”
  • Try to listen rather than problem-solve (at least initially)
  • Listen without assumptions
  • Be prepared to be declined
  • Use open ended questions. Rather than simply “R U OK?” consider instead “what’s been going well for you?”, what challenges have you been managing? I’ve noticed you’ve been working really long hours lately – what’s been going on for you?”
  • Offer support where you can

ALEC - Ask, Listen, Encourage action, Check in again

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